Thursday

Right on, Meagan Francis

I totally agree with what SHE HAS TO SAY in this column about how we tend to under-parent babies and over-parent bigger kids.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

I agree wholeheartedly.Nothing is more annoying than having to suffer the helicopter parent.JCB

Anonymous said...

Yeah, also agree. People tend to see me as on the slacker side when parenting my 4 and 6 year olds (I let them get dirty, climb trees and roam the park with older friends, for example) but these are the same people who frown when I tell them I still nurse my 21 months old son.

Marta from Lisbon

Mia Storm said...

Great article. It occurs to me that one of the cures to a hovering parent may be an attached parent. Perhaps a parent who is well attached is firmly bonded enough to the child to "intuit" more clearly the child's capabilities. A parent who may not be so well attached may not have that same level of security in their child's capabilities. In previous generations and in more primitive cultures even today, that bonding occured and occurs culturally. In the industrial West, we have to buck against the culture to achieve it.

katie allison granju said...

Anonymous (I am speaking to a specific Anon poster who knows who she is and who spends what must be hours every week stalking this blog and posting bizarro, nasty rants)-

Go away. You are not welcome or wanted here. Your last post crossed a line. I've removed it and will continue to remove all your posts. Again, go away. We don't want you here and wish you would leave.

Katie

Leslie said...

I think she has really hit on something here. Sometimes I've felt like I was "slacking off" after being all "attached" with my babies and much more hands-off with the big kids. I love the idea that this could be a natural progression in AP.

It's interesting that society as a whole seems to promote and expect hovering. I think of homework (I share your feelings about homework, Katie!) as an example--my attitude is that if they must have homework it's their job to do it, but so much of it, especially for little kids, requires tons of parent participation. Of course I help my kids if they ask for help, but I don't follow them around asking if they've done their homework, etc.

Suzette said...

I think if we do a good job when our children are babies and early school years, they are capable of being more independent as middle and high school kids. I see way too many helicopter parents in my high school. LET GO! These children are not capable of making decisions, critical thinking, or reasoning thanks to their parents who do everything for them.

Erika said...

Wow that was great!
so "right on"

Anonymous said...

I know a Mom that is the epitome of the helicopter parent.She hovered over her kids all through middle school ,high school and now helps her college freshman with assignments.She texts her 15 times a day.It's so sad that she doesn't cut the chord.