Tomorrow would have been my 16th wedding anniversary.
Such a stupid, pointless tragedy. It would be so, so much better for the children if we were married. And when things were good, they were really nice. I wish I could have stayed married. I really loved him. I always will, actually. And I'm pretty sure he loved me, too.
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10 comments:
He did love you. I know he did. I always figured you guys would stay married because you did love each other, but I guess it takes more than that.
I'm sorry.
Since I only "know" you from reading your words here, I have no idea what happened. At times my husband drives me up the freaking wall (and pretty close to leaping over the edge of said wall) but I can imagine the end of a marriage is very painful, and probaby something you never really get over.
Do something kind for yourself tomorrow, if you can.
I second what Karrie said. Have coffee or a beer with a kind, sympathetic friend. Take a walk in the woods or long the river. Or rent a Blackaddar DVD. I watched the whole (British TV) series after a particularly sad breakup, and I laughed so hard I forgot to cry for a while.
If I'd stayed married the first time, I'd have been married 19 years this June. Strange how things don't always turn out the way we expect in life. In the end, hopefully we look back and realize it was for the best.
Abscess makes the fart go honda
I wonder what the attraction was to the first husband in the first place. From what I've read here, he's manipulative, selfish and unfaithful. What good qualities does he have that would make you love him?
I'm sorry, mama.
Getting divorced tears you up like nothing else (of course, nothing else bad has ever happened to me (charmed life), so I don't really know what I'm talking about). It does make you smarter, though.
my daughter reminded me the other day that her dad and i have been married eleven years (split for one, still married). we are great friends and the separation is an evolution in our relationship (we never should have been romantically involved, but we were young, etc.) but that doesn't change the fact that for the kids, living in two places is very difficult, and our family is permanently ripped apart; the wounds can heal, but there will always be scars.
In some ways, splitting up when you did will be more positive for your kids than staying together. Sure, my parents didn't divorce until all us kids were in our 20s, but because of the fact that they stayed together, none of us know how to fight fair, communicate effectively, or avoid sweeping things under the rug. It's hard now, but hopefully they'll glean from all of this how to have a healthy relationship.
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