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OK, a few weeks ago I posted about bad dates and what makes them bad. Someone asked me what would make a good date, and having now had two with someone very fun, I can tell you some elements of a good one.

First of all, both times, the other person was very decisive about what we were going to do. None of this, "Well, what do you want to do...?" I do want to have a say, but for the first few times I go out with someone, I like them to figure it out because it gives me a good idea of what they like to do and hence, who they are.

So the first time we went to see a fun band after a good dinner at a cool restaurant I'd never been to. The second time we went to see free music downtown after dinner at a good restaurant I like a lot but hadn't told him I like a lot. So that was fun.

He is very, very clever. He says funny, clever things I don't always get, which amuses me. I like that. But I get most of his stuff and he gets most of mine (a rarity - my sense of humour can be a bit obscure).

He looks good and smells yummy. No pleated pants. Good hair. Good shoes.

He told me about a book I might like and hadn't read. I am now reading it and yep, it's one I like.

He did not once ask me about my divorce, which is nice. It didn't seem to interest him that much.

He hasn't called me incessantly, which I hate, but has sent me some very entertaining e-mails. He spells well. He didn't wig out when I said I couldn't see him this week.

On our second date, he brought me gerbera daisies - my favorite - but without uncomfortable fanfair.