Friday

modern love

I'll have an essay running this Sunday, May 8, in the New York Times Style section in the much-discussed "Modern Love" column slot. I'm a little nervous about it because it's probably the most personal thing I've ever had published (and that's saying something, considering that most of my magazine writing is in the form of personal essays).

UPDATE: the piece won't run in hard copy 'til Sunday, but it's already online at NYTimes.com -->> RIGHT HERE

Anyway, check it out and let me know whatcha think.

--KAG

7 comments:

MEB said...

Hi Katie,
I just read your column in this morning's NYT and I thought it was wonderfully written and very moving.

Your experience sounds horrendous and althought it is a very personal piece. Your husband may have a clever lawyer but you have the gift of expression.

Best of luck

MEB said...

Hi Katie,
I just read your column in this morning's NYT and I thought it was wonderfully written and very moving.

Your experience sounds horrendous and althought it is a very personal piece. Your husband may have a clever lawyer but you have the gift of expression.

Rich said...

As a single dad, I can understand your ex's wish to have more time with his kids, but Damn!

I can even understand his lawyer's advice that in order to get what he wants he has to go on the attack, but still Damn!

In the millions of things that went wrong with our marriage, the one thing we got right was the kids. Your story reminds me of just how lucky I was that my ex and her first ex (the sperm donor for my oldest three kids) haven't tried to pull anything like that.

If only the courts had some way to deal with custody that wasn't so adversarial...

Good luck Katie, and that was a very powerful and well written piece.

katie allison granju said...

There are ways to get more time with your kids that don't involve suing the other person for full custody, something I never did and never would have done.

Ironically, I would have been far more open to true 50-50 custody if I hadn't felt so assaulted by being sued for full custody on the grounds that I was a bad mother. That put me in a defensive position. I felt frightened and attacked and it made it hard for me to consider a middle ground position.

Anonymous said...

I thought it was painful, but beautifully expressed. Stunning too, as in, I can't believe that's happening to you.

Fitzhugh Family said...

I thought your peice was touching and my prayers go out to you!!! I couldn't imagine going through something like that and I think you are a very strong person for staying together! Well written piece! I have read your book and since I parent pretty much the way you do...I can honestly say I know you are the best mother to your children. Consider yourself hugged by me!

Anonymous said...

people get very ugly in the face of divorce. they will do things that they probably never dreamed in a million years they would do. yet our media just carries on as if its just another "life passage" or a normal part of life. heck, they even have a specail type of marriage now called a "starter marriage".