Sunday

wow!

My sister, with whom I am very close and who lives in my neighborhood, is also pregnant :-)

She's due the same week I am.

The bad news: she may not be able to be my doula, as she has in my past births

The good news: since we can nurse one another's babies, we will be able to babysit more easily

21 comments:

mamalife said...

That's so cool - congrats to you both!

Anonymous said...

As a kid,I remember hearing stories about how my grandmother and her sister did the same thing.(at the time I thought that it was pretty gross.)As an adult, I think that it is pretty cool.Good for both of you!Wishing you all every happiness...jcb

Anonymous said...

no way on earth would I EVER let anyone else nurse my baby. How would you know if they dont have something they havent been diagnosed with? Isnt your sister a nurse? She could have been exposed to something and not know it and give it to your baby.

Anonymous said...

Why would you want to babysit each other's baby? I thought you were all for keeping your baby with you at all times. That is what attachment parenting is about and you did write a book on it. I have read your book and breastfeeding is a big part of attachment parenting so why would you leave your baby to go out and let your sister feed it. It just doesn't make sense to me.

Leslie said...

When my 4th baby was born, I was readmitted to the hospital the day after I left it, suffering symptoms which turned out to be caused by a large, somehow unnoticed blood loss. But they tested me for many other things, and one of the tests (a VQ scan) caused me to be unable to nurse my newborn for an unspecified period of time. (I could go on and on about the ignorance and indifference of the hospital concerning bf.) The nurses thought I was insane for caring so much about avoiding formula, but I consider it very, very fortunate that my sister was still nursing her 18-month-old baby and that she and my mother were willing to stay overnight at the hospital with me so that William did not have to have formula. My father also happened to have frozen milk belonging to my stepsister that he brought for me to feed by syringe.

I never nursed my sister's other baby, and she has never nursed one of mine again, but on the occasions when we left our babies with each other (I'm not talking newborns now; I don't leave my babies until they are usually nine months or so) it was comforting to know that the option was available if necessary.

Anonymous said...

and you are very lucky neither of these women had some latent disease that hadnt been diagnosed yet. maybe in the old days people didnt think about this but nowadays there are too many pathogens carried by bodily fluids. I dont care if it IS a family member...people can have all kinds of stuff. the lengths people will go to to avoid formula...the nurses thought you were crazy because you WERE crazy.

ErinOrtlund said...

I think of it differently--perhaps Katie's sister will pass on different antibodies to the baby. That's a bonus!

Leslie said...

"the nurses thought you were crazy because you WERE crazy. "

That the baby might catch something from the breastmilk wasn't why they thought I was crazy. They thought I was crazy for going to such lengths to avoid formula.

Sure, there's a possibility of some unknown pathogen in that milk, I guess, even though both of them had healthy babies who were over a year old before my baby drank the milk. But there are definitely KNOWN risks to giving a newborn baby formula--which I won't bore you by listing, since I know you won't care.

Anonymous said...

From the LLL website: La Leche League does not encourage or suggest cross nursing of infants. Indeed, the practice is discouraged for a number of physical and psychological reasons.

And: Regardless of the individual circumstances or a Leader's reaction to it, cross nursing is not something that should be undertaken lightly, if considered at all.

Rachel said...

Yay for you Katie!How wonderful to be able to share a bit of childcare. I know even the most attached mama needs her hair cut once in a while!!!

Anonymous said...

B- DOESN'T LIVE IN YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD! Sheesh.

- Steve K.

Anonymous said...

Steve K, does this mean KAG is stetching the truth (again)?

Anonymous said...

Right on! Some people are so ignorant about breastmilk and wet nursing/milk mothers.

DJackson
Anonymous because Google hates me.

Mia Storm said...

Congratulations to you and your sister, Katie! :)

I wish people's disgust for formula feeding registered nearly as highly on the Ick-O-Meter as it apparently does for cross-feeding. Wet nurses have been around for thousands of years of human history and the human race hasn't died out yet.

My guess is that occasional cross-nursing doesn't have nearly the same potential for danger as does the losing one's milk supply by relying on formula on date nights.

Anonymous said...

Anon -- Kate is my friend. You, on the other hand, are a gutless dick. So fuck off.

Anonymous said...

By the way, B and R, if'n you're reading this: congrats!

Anonymous said...

Um. Too many beers. Last two were me.

- Steve K.

Anonymous said...

so I guess "gutless dicks" are those who find some of this stuff utterly stupid propoganda. The way this "alternative' stuff is crammed down womens throats with a good dose of guilt makes me sick.
Katie "may" be a nice person (but I suspect God forbid you disagree wtih her on one of her sacred cows)but what she is promoting deserves to be stopped. I probably could find better ways to do it than personally insulting her but I will log on here and be just fried by the level of stupidity being passed off as fact. I will think of the people who could be potentially harmed by her drivel and I just go ahead and post.

Anonymous said...

And, that wasn't a response by the "original gutless dick" either! That one would be me!

Anonymous said...

just saying, if the LLL says it's not a good idea, it's NOT a good idea.

Anonymous said...

I do know a couple of people who have done this but they were very young and uneducated at the time.
I would say if LLL, the mother of groups that take breastfeeding to ridiculous extremes, doesnt even endorse it, then that says something. Like I said, even a family member, PARTICULARLY one who works in the medical profession, how on earth do you know what may be in there latent? I wouldnt chance it. The lengths people will go to to avoid formula. I should say though that my second kid never had a drop of formula in his life (not bragging, my first was ff, it all just worked out that way) and somehow I managed to get out and get a sitter fairly early on without resorting to other womens perhaps questionable bodily fluids. I simply nursed him very very well and went out. Once he was on solids, well, then, he just had food. No, I couldnt bop off for an entire day, but I managed to get out long enough to see movies, eat dinner, run errands and such. He wouldnt sleep without nursing so we just timed it around that or he got to stay up late. No big.
I will say that as an infant he was a whole lot less flexible than his sister, who was bottlefed and put on a schedule. I did do some crying it out to keep him from going totally erratic at night but he NEVER would nap in his crib. NEVER. unless he just conked out. For two years I drove this kid around until he fell asleep at naptime. No big...but yeah, there WAS a pretty big difference in him and his sisters habits that I think directly relate to the manner they were fed. BTW he is a MUCH more difficult child than she was although I think a lot of that is personality and just being a boy. And HE is the one with the ear infections, who needs the braces and who is an unbelievably picky eater.