Thursday

Today it became clear to me in a whole new way that someone I care about deeply, someone in whom I had placed my trust, has chosen drugs over our friendship. This person wouldn't see it that way, but I do.

This person has chosen a life that doesn't include me because that life allows for drug use with minimal hassle, while being with me means questions will be asked and challenges will be raised. Other people, the people he DOES allow around, don't ask hard questions or challenge this person to be all that he can be.

It breaks my heart. I see his potential as a truly sober person. The glimpse I got of that sober person revealed a brilliant, funny, sweet, musical, intuitive individual.

It's a loss in so many ways.

Addiction sucks.

2 comments:

The Wonderful Wonderful World Of Us! said...

That is truely sad...I hope he can get out of that soon! Its not fair to himself!

Anonymous said...

It's hard not to look at these choices as- drugs over me but the addict never sees it that way.

It's not about you - honestly. Addicts just can't see the consquences that clearly. Don't enable him but maybe stay close enough that if this guy ever wants help - it is as easy to find help it is to find "friends" willing to let drugs win.

Some folks can drink , gamble, or do "drugs" and walk away without causing ruin to their lives or friendships, but then some become so far gone it takes over everything. Goes to those "issues" in Dewi' post. I have a friend whose weakness is gambling- hard to detect ( no shakes - no red, wild eyes, no lingering odor) and hard to kick because it doesn't cause withdrawl, illness and miserable physical side effects to remind the gambler why to stay clean- just gives that great high they are chasing.

What is interesting to me is how sensitive I have become- suddenly you see hundreds of billboards, commercials for casinos. We are in the middle of the high season even with all these bowl games when even folks who "never gamble" will play 100 squares at the office or at some party to watch a game. And notice how often "I'll bet you...." is sprinkled in conversations.