Deep thoughts from Kenny Chesney on the end of his 4 month marriage to Renee Zellweger:
"It was like opening the door to your house and having someone come in and take your big-screen TV off the wall during the big game, and there's nothing you can do about it."
9 comments:
Katie,
Call me. You ran off the other night without leaving me your phone # or e-mail address and you aren't listed.
CK
should that read KC, as in short for Kenny Chesney? In pursuit of star-crossed relationships, are you trying to catch KC on the rebound?
Liberated But Alone...
Okay, you burned your bras and now you are liberated. Yes, you've gained many freedoms that were previously not acceptable for women.
You can ask for a date and even be the one who proposes if you decide to do so.
You can pursue your own careers and many of you have proven that you are quite capable of leading as well as following.
You can drink beer straight from the bottle, go to male stripper shows, smoke cigars, and use any choice cuss word that you want.
You are indeed liberated.
You've worked hard for it, you've earned it, and no one should deny you what countless generatons of your gender have struggled and sacrificed to accomplish.
However, none of this makes you necessarily attractive, desired, wanted, or pursued.
In fact, some of it may actually make you very unattractive in the eyes of many men. You say that you can live without men who will not readily accept you, should you have a bitchy attitude? Fine. Just realize that you've narrowed the field of men down to a very small minority. Furthermore, any willingness on their part to give in to a woman who feigns equality when really exercising control may be more out of their desparation than any kind of enlightenment.
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Independent is Good, But...
Before you dismiss the rest of this article, please read on. It could very well be that the point being made here will help any female reader gain some needed insight into the workings of the male mind and via versa.
You see, few males would ever demean a woman who has done well in her chosen career. Most of us enjoy a gal with some spunk.
One of this writer's favorite movie scenes is from "Overboard" starring Goldie Hawne and Kirk Russell. Her character joins him for a beer at a cowboy bar. When she reaches for her drink, Russell's character states that, "I've always been attracted to women who drink their beer straight from the bottle." The point is that we men enjoy our women in all shapes and sizes and with all of your liberties as well, but we are absolutely turned off and disgusted when you feel that you can only relate to us with an "attitude."
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Understand How Men See You...
Much like the gay male who overdoes his femininity with flamboyance, we view a female who is overly aggressive, manipulative, demeaning, and indignate in much the same way. There will never be any substitute for true humanity. Nothing is more attractive to a male than a liberated woman with a balanced attitude that is genuine and considerate.
I happen to work in an environment filled with young adults. Not only that, but I have two grown sons. If overly aggressive women could but hear the disgust for them as these young fellows talk, they would have to reconsider their self-deluded arrogance that demands they portray themselves as bitchy women. Except for whimps, there are few real men who really want anything to do with women who are self-gradiozed and demeaning toward men to demonstrate their independence and liberties.
These are the same women who revel in denigrating men for their supposed cluelessness. In truth, this issue has less to do with any difference between the sexes and much more to do with whether or not one is going to be a decent human being.
I've had the experience of dating a woman who, although she was physically gorgeous, portrayed a superior attitude in all that she said and did. Her response to our four dates together resulted in an e-mail message stating that I was very "basic and simple" and that she was really looking for her "equal." Even if I am basic and simple, the point is that she has obviously taken this attitude toward all men because that was most of the content of our conversations--her thirteen years of dating one "jerk" after another. However, I do think that she deserves her "equal." After all, bitchy guys do exist as well.
Like my four-date-nightmare, there are too many women who complain about men not being romantic. The truth is that we guys are very capable of being romantic. It's just that a woman with a self-centered attitude isn't worth the effort on our part. Oh, we'll go to bed with them as long as we can tolerate their barbs, griping, and whining but don't think for one minute that we are going to ever get down on one knee and ask if they'd like to wear our engagement ring.
No, that request will be saved for a truly liberated woman--the one who is liberated from herself.
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Aggressiveness vs. Attraction...
In a perfect world, liberated women would be less aggressive and good men would be much more understanding regarding how to treat a woman more as a person than prey. Those couples who are enjoying a truly mutually fulfilling relationship are doing so because they have worked at developing balance, understanding of each other, and relearning the simple truth that all of us need to be treated as valued human beings if we are to feel genuinely loved.
The world isn't perfect but, then again, each of us has the ability to readjust our thinking so that we can bring both maturity and understanding to our primary relationships.
Either that, or we'll just have to adapt to being unhappy and alone.
May every woman experience nothing but the right to be free in every way and do well in whatever they attempt to do with no man-made obstacles to have to confront along the way. That is your right and that is what your fore-mothers worked so hard to accomplish for you.
All I am saying here is that some of you are obviously making the mistake of becoming exactly what you have historically hated in men.
Don't be a bitch and if you are one, don't blame it on men. Take responsibility for yourselves and be our friends, companions, counterparts, equals, lovers, and partners.
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© all rights reserved - 10/22/2001-
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found this on the 'net and wondered if this is why Katie is still single and only attracts assholes? hmmmmm?
Anonymous #3 should get her/his own blog, since he/she enjoys taking up a lot of space rambling.
Not that anyone but the self-loathing and repressed or woman-hating would read it, but hey, there's lots of rednecks out there.
I've known Katie a long time, and I've always found her attractive for the very reasons anon #3 seems to find her unattractive.
Leave it to a troll to completely glom someone else's post to make their point for them.
Ps. I knew both Kenny and Dave Farmer up at ETSU and the quote you listed is actually a pretty insightful comment, coming from him.
To Ananymous #2,
What??????!!!!!!! I must have missed the part in this topic about how Katie is trying to find a man but can't because she is too liberated. I just thought it was a quote from K.C. and how funny his comparison on marriage to Renee Z. was. My mistake.
uh, yeah, like others in here dont post somethingsomeone else wrote. I just saw this and as I later read the comment in here thought it would be rather relevent.
nice assumptions about me deedenan or whatever your name is but once again you are wrong.
I might further add that Idont postin here nearly as much or as frequently as some others so its rather interesting you stated what you did about my "taking up space". perhaps it would do you good to be observant enough to notice there are at LEAST three people posting anonymous posts that dont particularly care for Katies spin on the world. some of them as I read their posts I have thought they were thinking what I was thinking however I really dont post that often.
Anonymous #3,
I think you SHOULD post often. Any type of writing, typing, etc. that compels someone to attempt to communicate effectively with others offers a good opportunity to practice grammar, spelling, syntax etc.
I can't help but think that if you posted more, we'd be better able to understand what the hell you're talking about without having to engage our own internal grammar/spelling checks every time we read your posts. (Your uncredited quote from the 'net excepted, of course).
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