So the other night I went out with someone for the first time, and it was really quite fun. But I think we were both a bit surprised to learn that there is a rather significant age difference between the two of us (I'm older).
So I've been pondering whether that matters anymore and if so, why and if not, why....
But it was fun. Definitely the most entertaining time I've had hanging out with a guy since my relationship crashed and burned over the holidays...
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Don't dwell on the age difference. Just have fun.
My wife is 10 years older than I am (she's 40 and I am 30) and it's really a non-issue for us.
Aha! You did so have a blind date.
It wasn't necessarily a DATE... I'm not even sure what makes a date a date as opposed to just hanging out with someone.
"Date" sounds so ....serious and scary.
What 30 something woman doesn't want to date someone younger? For starters, the sex is going to be better, you know? Men get boring and sleepy and fat as they get older. That's my opinion anyway. I'd much rather date someone in his 20's or early 30's than men over 35.
The lovely thing about being forty is that you can appreciate twenty-five-year-old men more.
Colleen McCullough
(I'm 40 and can vouch for appreciating a 28 year old and a gorgeous 30 year old with lots of stamina.)
I'm 38 and my husband is 28. We do great, although I have secret fears of looking like I'm his mother in ten years. He says he's trying to drink and smoke a bunch to catch up with me.
Actually at the moment we look approximately the same age. But the bottom line is go for it.
I'm 24 and would much rather date a woman in her 30's or even 40's but they never seem interested in me. Twenty four year old girls bore the hell out of me.
Doesn't anyone think an age difference is a bad thing? Anyone? Anyone?
I always have trouble explaining 80's bands and tv shows to younger men...other than that you only have to worry he may spend more time gaming with your boys than bonding with you. Men in general are going to be trouble- you might as well get one with some life left in the tires! He'll need to be younger to keep up with you anyway!!!
Well, as a 26 year old guy, it would depend. I think Drew Barrymore is seven or eight years older than her boyfriend. I would date Drew Barrymore. I think Cameron Diaz is about 10 years older than her boyfriend. I would shag Cameron. My current trashy TV addiction is that dating show with Lisa Loeb, who is in her mid or late thirties and I would definitely hook up with Lisa Loeb. But the moms I see in the produce department at Krogers? No thanks. And I guess they are in their thirties or forties. Why do women let themselves go like that when they become moms? Answer me that?
Don't forget Sheryl Crow and Lance. She's 43 and he's something like 34.
Nope. Not me. I'm sticking with women 24 and under.
I am 36.
I've dated several younger men (one five years younger, another 12 years younger), and I would hesitate to do it again. Most were too immature; while they had sexual stamina, they had no technique. It was like being back in high school, in the back seat of some old jalopy with some kid fumbling with your bra strap. Yuk! And I found that they made me feel older, not younger (for example, I can remember where I was when JFK was shot; they weren't born yet). They don't have the same frame of reference as you do, so post-coital conversation can be challenging.
I do best with men 1-3 years older than me, but that's just my preference.
It's an interesting question. Why do some women become really dull and lose all interest in their looks when they officially become "mom" ?
Do you think it's because some women can't reconcile "mother" with "sexual being." So they give one role up completely?
My husband is watching The Goonies right now. I am not kidding. But I have to say he is very good in bed.
Sheryl and Lance broke up.
I had known my spouse for several years because our paths occasionally crossed at work. And then we were friends - and then one night, I realized we were about to become more than friends.
I asolutely freaked out because I knew I was older, but not how much older. I didn't give a s**t - my theory is pretty much after you're an "adult" it doesn't matter - but I was afraid he would.
So, I was relieved to find out the difference was only 4 years. But honestly, I don't think more would have mattered.
And it's fun to call him my boy toy.
My ex-husband is 20 years older than me. I didn't think it would matter, and for a long time it seemed like it didn't, but he expected me to dust the top of the refrigerator and the door jams. Sorry Mr. 1950's. I work. I play. If I can't see it, it doesn't exist.
Kate, You look about 25, so I doubt he realized you are not.
no biggy kate ... i'll be 40 this month--Cin is 52. we've been 12 yrs 'apart' for 15 yrs ...
'nuff said.
Maybe these moms "let themselves go" because after working a 40 hour work week, taking care of kids, cleaning the house, and doing the shopping, they just don't have the energy or the money to dress up, get manicures, facials, put on makeup, exercise, or even get the 8 hours of sleep necessary to look good.
Have a little compassion!
Quote) It's an interesting question. Why do some women become really dull and lose all interest in their looks when they officially become "mom" ?
Do you think it's because some women can't reconcile "mother" with "sexual being." So they give one role up completely?
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No its because we don't get all dressed up to go grocery shopping and with kids we don't always have the time to get all prettied up to look like celebrities!!!
Referring to this quote and the other comment about women in the grocery store produce section!
Anon above my last post...I didn't read that far down before I posted...but VERY well said!
That question bugged me can you tell?!
I agree that moms are often too busy to worry whether men are checking them out in the produce section.
On the other hand, I do think we have a culture that desexualizes women when they become mothers. The best example of this is "mom jeans." Why do some women who wore perfectly nice jeans BEFORE having a baby switch to the dreaded mom jeans after?
I am happy that our culture is changing. There is no longer as much of an expectation of what a "good mom" looks like, or listens to or does in her free time. Mothers are increasingly able to continue being people after giving birth instead of morphing into Stepford Moms.
In the 3 + years since my seperation, I have dated from 7 years younger to 9 years older. I prefer the younger ones, maybe because most of the men my age (30) that I meet are either still in extended adolescence or busy power seeking. The men slightly younger that I happen to know are more 'together' and more fun.
OTOH, the younger ones are more likely to freak out about my "mom" status.
Sigh.
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