tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post8248571000043393652..comments2023-10-31T12:05:02.496+00:00Comments on katieallisongranju: oldUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-63004144793426802542006-09-21T12:49:00.000+00:002006-09-21T12:49:00.000+00:00Birth defects are NOT more common with "older" par...Birth defects are NOT more common with "older" parents. Everyone still has an even 3 percent chance of having a baby with birth defects and a 97 percent chance of having a baby without birth defects. Within that 3 percent, Downs syndrome is more common in babies born to older parents and less common in babies born to younger parents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-46848627113886578962006-09-21T01:25:00.000+00:002006-09-21T01:25:00.000+00:00besides aromatherapy and health food store voodoo ...besides aromatherapy and health food store voodoo are bogus.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-81361721996967429912006-09-21T01:24:00.000+00:002006-09-21T01:24:00.000+00:00no Katie but you reveal enough to probably cause y...no Katie but you reveal enough to probably cause you a great deal of trouble. it is truly frightening how little information someone needs to get on the internet to do some of this stuff.<br />but hey, if you want to be stupid, feel free.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-20859154079842008562006-09-21T00:14:00.000+00:002006-09-21T00:14:00.000+00:00We had our second at 41 (me) and 39 (her).
They w...We had our second at 41 (me) and 39 (her).<br /><br />They will want you to do genetic counseling, as well as taking an amnio, since birth defects are more common with "older" parents.<br /><br />We were initially told that our baby would have Downs; a latter amnio showed that to be negative.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-56141834821111399632006-09-20T18:05:00.000+00:002006-09-20T18:05:00.000+00:00Hey anon- You can rest easy. I do not reveal every...Hey anon- You can rest easy. I do not reveal everything about myself or my life on my blog. So relax. You seem really, really worked up over this. Try a hot bath with lavender in it or some food with tryptophan. Take a walk. Just chill. It's all going to be a-okay.<br /><br />-kagJuliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04704163845968356340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-83185362563116648462006-09-20T18:01:00.000+00:002006-09-20T18:01:00.000+00:00dont you read the papers Jon? have you not heard o...dont you read the papers Jon? have you not heard of identity theft? have you not heard of pedophiles? have you not heard of kidnapping? for that matter have you not heard of people being stalked by someone they piss off online? it happens. just yesterday I heard about a woman whose baby was snatched out of her body in Missouri by some woman with serious mental problems. this is not specifically internet related but the woman picked her "target" because she has a big sign announcing a new baby girl in her yard. It is also a known fact (again not internet related but privacy related) that thieves read the papers for obituaries and weddings to find out hot spots to break into. I would not put birth announcements in the paper for my kids and we did not have a wedding announcement. sorry, to me that is prudent. strangers dont need to know my business and anyone who it is important to knows already. as far as the internet goes, that is just taking it up a whole bunch of notches. I have talked this over among people I know and they all feel the same way. it is just plain stupid to make the details of your everyday life known to anyone who can google you on the web. do you not read magazines where they talk about women who are found, stalked and murdered on the internet? or are you and Katie just so busy reading liberal hate talk, celebrity gossip and attachment parenting shit that you miss important common sense stuff? just wondering. <br />stealing my soul...no no one can steal my soul...but I realize the world we live in. and further, on a more personal level I have a sense of boundaries of the kind of people who should be priviledged to know things about me. and its not any stranger who can type my name into a search engine. unlike your wife I am not such a narcissist that I get off on being an internet "celebrity". one of these days her constant need for ego stroking is going to come back and bite her in the butt. I am surprised her lawyer brother has not told her how unbelievably unwise some of the things she has revealed publically in print are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-72714735886224646662006-09-20T13:18:00.000+00:002006-09-20T13:18:00.000+00:00Hey troll - what exactly do you fear by putting yo...Hey troll - what exactly do you fear by putting your picture or your name on the internet? What are you so afraid of?<br /><br />I don't understand this weird pre-internet mentality - if you have your picture on the internet, are you afraid someone's somehow going to steal your soul?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-24264767764590844052006-09-20T00:07:00.000+00:002006-09-20T00:07:00.000+00:00Please excuse this but I had to respond:Actually,i...Please excuse this but I had to respond:Actually,if the truth be known,I have lots of experience being around guys but I guess the difference is that I choose to surround myself with quality people-not quantity .In defense of Katie,she seems to be a very youthful, good soul with a healthy attitude.She is happy and wants to share her happiness with the world.That's how people whom are genuinely in love act.What's wrong with sharing her happiness?I don't know about you but seeing others happy makes ME happy. I don't know Katie or Jon personally but I am impressed with their quality of charachter.As far as Jon is concerned,age is just a number- emotional intelligence is what is important. I am sure that there is a physical attraction between them but I give them credit for being intelligent enough not to have based their choice of life-partners on "not wanting to let them get away because they are hot." How could you possibly think that any guy with half a brain would jump into a blended-family marriage without considering the possibilities that may lie ahead?. Moving forward, You know ,some people have a much stronger maternal instinct than others and that is just the way it is.Apparently your maternal instinct is not as strong as Katie's seems to be and that's just fine,but to judge someone just because their life-agenda differs from yours is so not a good thing.Katie and Jon are happy that they have found happiness and might want to celebrate their love and devotion by having a child (which is what humans do.)It is perfectly normal! By the way,when I am volunteering in my community I meet lots of people but I don't truly know what their beliefs are other than what I see before me(people with the luxury of TIME to give back.)How do you happen to know what the personal beliefs of strangers are? Katie just seems to be another soul walking the earth that has strong beliefs,a strong maternal instint,and happens to want her small voice heard in a big way.I think that she is an admirable person with a reasonable disposition-a high quality woman that loves motherhood...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-51811543036859017032006-09-19T22:09:00.000+00:002006-09-19T22:09:00.000+00:00you will notice that what I write is very very lit...you will notice that what I write is very very little about my personal life. and i would NEVER post my picture much less that of my children on the internet. at least not the publically accessed part of it. <br />and no, no one is really named "anonymous'. however I am not about to put my name up on the internet. why, so weirdos can look me up in the phone book? no thank you. maybe I am paranoid about my privacy but it is truly frightening how easy it is to find people from the clues they drop on the internet. thanks but no thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-5024763492074455232006-09-19T20:59:00.000+00:002006-09-19T20:59:00.000+00:00Wow, Anonymous (if that is in fact your real name)...Wow, Anonymous (if that <i>is</i> in fact your real name), it's surprising you're not into blogging. You sure seem to have a lot to share for somebody who thinks it's "creepy" to put personal information out on the Internet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-51378626433417201472006-09-19T18:03:00.000+00:002006-09-19T18:03:00.000+00:00there is actually a psychological diagnosis called...there is actually a psychological diagnosis called "hoarding". usually it applies to people who cant say no to just one more animal. but I think a lot of people are afraid to say it but I think it can apply to people who keep on having/adopting/fostering kids when they more than have their hands full already.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-32963855560885860632006-09-19T18:01:00.000+00:002006-09-19T18:01:00.000+00:00oh come on. you obviously have not been around a b...oh come on. you obviously have not been around a bunch of guys. I personally am not a big fan of people blabbing about what they do sexually with their same sex peers but I know a lot of people do it. more probably do than dont. <br />and plenty of people get married to older people with kids without at all thinking it through. it doesnt mean Jon is "mature".<br />if my own son wanted to marry an older woman, I would be concerned. I would wonder if it was about some pathology thing..some mother figure thing. if it really was that he had fallen for an older woman that looked young and he liked her before he knew how old she was I would make sure he THOROUGHLY had thought through the implications, specifically that he might not be having any biological children of his own. some people are comfortable with that and just having kids, any kids, in their life is fine with them. some people it just isnt the same unless its their own flesh and blood. and if having your own flesh and blood is important to you you dont marry someone way older than yourself who is on the verge of hitting the infertile years. that may sound terribly mercenary but people do not think about some of these things. all they think of is that this person is hot and they cant let them get away. then when the issue rears its head they freak out. and do all sorts of unnatural things to their bodies to make sure that a little copy of them is inhabiting the earth. i married my husband knowing one or both of us might have fertility problems BUT I didnt get this whole "gotta have a baby thing" AT ALL. and I realized that there are a lot of kids out there that truly need help. I didnt really care one way or another. I figured theres lots of ways to contribute to a childs life even if you cant breed. now it did work out that I had not one but two awesome kids. I am glad I was able to have kids because I am glad I have those particular two in my life. they are truly cool people. I did not enjoy having little babies. I did not enjoy having toddlers. but now that they are older, I love them to pieces. <br />which is more than I can say for a lot of the big family attachment brigade. despite the lip service about how much they loooooove children I get the idea that a lot of these nincompoops simply fancy themselves with babies and they have never felt so important in their lives as when their tits were being sucked and once the kid grows up they gotta keep the whole thing going and so they pop out another one. I see relatively few of these baby addicts volunteering with disadvantaged kids or really trying to make a difference in the lives of any kids but their own. <br />and in Katies particular case I get the idea that her kids are just some big extension of her whole head game. she uses them shamelessly to push her agenda. can anyone say "kathie lee"???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-62444339290490699092006-09-19T15:41:00.000+00:002006-09-19T15:41:00.000+00:00Most people I know don't discuss what they do sex...Most people I know don't discuss what they do sexually with their husbands or wives.I think that ,that is usually what goes on in the lockerroom at school between teenagers,not mature-minded,married adults.I seriously doubt that this would ever be an issue.Besides,it stands to reason that a man (like Jon)that takes his relationship with an older woman (with 3 kids)seriously enough to marry her more than likely has a solid sense of maturity.I think that the presumption is a little silly and over-dramatic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-47136197373768407272006-09-19T04:55:00.000+00:002006-09-19T04:55:00.000+00:00well it does cross ones mind when someone marries ...well it does cross ones mind when someone marries someone closer to the age of their kids than to them. I am not the only one that feels this way. I know people whose parents have married people closer to their age than the parents and it creeped them out to think that it was totally in the realm of possibility that they and their parent could be involved with two contemporaries who hung out together. the possibility of having their spouse and the parents spouse talking the way friends usually do about their partners, given that the partners were parent and child, totally creeped out the one person in particular I am thinking of.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-64685112524555175612006-09-19T00:42:00.000+00:002006-09-19T00:42:00.000+00:00No,what is BEYOND creepy is the demented thought p...No,what is BEYOND creepy is the demented thought process that produced the off-base comment about H giving tips to J. I mean really,talk about boundaries.sheesh!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-55982503935991288572006-09-18T20:35:00.000+00:002006-09-18T20:35:00.000+00:00My mom gave birth to my sister at age 39, and sis ...My mom gave birth to my sister at age 39, and sis and I are nine years apart. Wouldn't trade her for anything. My mom and her sis are almost 20 years apart, and are very close. I wouldn't worry about age difference, and if you think it is the right thing to have another baby at this time in your life, then you should. Only you know what is right decision for you and your family. Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-72629598285235667892006-09-18T17:52:00.000+00:002006-09-18T17:52:00.000+00:00what do you mean telling people to "mind their own...what do you mean telling people to "mind their own business" about Katies reproductive parts? SHE doesnt mind her own business about peoples breasts.<br />I wonder, if Jane is on anti seizure meds will Katie guilt her into thinking that she "has" to breastfeed Katies grandchildren even if they get a humonga dose of some pretty powerful medication?<br />I would find it MOST amusing to see Katies daughter about town with a bottlefed baby, after Jane has been exploited to advertise Katies breastfeeding "lactivism".<br />(speaking of creepy clothes on little girls does anyone besides me find it creepy to have shirts for little girls advertising how they were fed as infants? especially since the stuff is in sizes designed for kids too small to say yeah mom I want the world to know I was breastfed? if Jane wanted the shirt it was probably because it was a cute color not because of the words)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-17669554277795747722006-09-18T16:53:00.000+00:002006-09-18T16:53:00.000+00:00and yes, if I dont mind saying I find the whole bl...and yes, if I dont mind saying I find the whole blog thing itself sort of creepy. OK, there are people who have blogs that are simply oriented to some hobby of theirs and that is a good way to connect with others who like to do what you do in your free time. but the idea of posting intimate details of ones life (not to mention exploiting ones kids for blog material) for any and every stranger to read is beyond creepy. it bespeaks a lack of boundaries...a SEVERE lack of boundaries in my opinion. heck, Kathie Lee Gifford has NOTHING on Katie Granju in the exploit your kids for publicity and sympathy category. <br />everyones all worked up about Cindy Crawfords kids pictures but do people who just post pictures of their kids daily lives realize that they are contributing to the internet simply being a big shopping mall for pedophiles? stupid stupid stupid.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-52187138061979979652006-09-18T16:49:00.000+00:002006-09-18T16:49:00.000+00:00take a break from the computer? geez...I probably ...take a break from the computer? geez...I probably spend an hour a day max on the computer. and very little of it is on this website. unlike some others I do not feel it is wise to post anything personal about myself on the internet unless it is someone I have an established relationship with.<br />I just find it more than a little creepy when people with teenagers marry someone closer to the generation of their teen children than themselves. it almost seems incestuous. I mean what if some female contemporary of Jons were to get involved with her son in a few years. I mean will Henry be giving Jon hot sex tips for what to do to his mother? I mean BEYOND creepy. <br />as for the 54 year old mother...that is just WRONG. as someone who was the child of older parents, one of whom died when I was a child, I have to say for a 54 year old woman to go thru whatever unnatural procedure she had to to get pregnant and quite probably then die before her child is out of high school is WRONG. 39 is one thing but 54? I am sorry....I dont care if it took her that long to find "Mr Right"...she should be satisfied with what she has and perhaps be a foster parent if she wants to contriubute meaninfully to a childs life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-38023043875640485962006-09-18T16:32:00.000+00:002006-09-18T16:32:00.000+00:00Why do people think they can demand an explanation...Why do people think they can demand an explanation for your reproductive plans? If you and Jon want a fourth child and are emotionally and financially prepared to take care of him/her, do what you want. (Is there a nice way to tell someone "It's none of your damn business"? Maybe Judith Martin knows...)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-86924225001121079352006-09-18T14:44:00.000+00:002006-09-18T14:44:00.000+00:00Well,it sure does sound like "anonymous" has been ...Well,it sure does sound like "anonymous" has been scorned.I think that this person must have been waiting for the opportunity to pounce on you.I don't know the background info but maybe it might be a good idea for this person to focus their energy on getting over whatever upset them by doing some volunteer work. (taking a break from the computer?) In other words,stop focusing on the negative and put some energy into something positive that will help you get to the place in your life where you need to be.Stop obsessing over something that you can't change and move on-you'll be happier for it...and so will your targets. JCBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-76783013709478368272006-09-18T14:04:00.000+00:002006-09-18T14:04:00.000+00:00"Yes, the 'nay-sayer' was being 'mean' but on the ..."Yes, the 'nay-sayer' was being 'mean' but on the other hand, when you put your personal life out there on a blog, you know you're going to get some mean comments."<br /><br />Yeah, I know. It just amazes me, though, that some people want to hide behind the anonymity of the internet to be mean, or at least try to, about other people. It's not the fact that they're mean to us that bothers me as much as just that there are so many ill-spirited people in the world. <br /><br />Wow, that was a poorly written paragraph.<br /><br />Anyway, in this case, I think I know the person who wrote that, and she has lots of problems of her own to work through.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-49948658972072023942006-09-18T13:51:00.000+00:002006-09-18T13:51:00.000+00:00Most of my friends had their children in their 30s...Most of my friends had their children in their 30s, and I was planning to also. I even bought a book in my 20s, "Pregnancy After 35," when putting it off that long was still unheard of. My first marriage ended without children when I was just 32. My second marriage was at age 37, and our child was born when I was 40. <br /><br />Throughout the pregnancy, we had to listen to the well-meaning ignorant inform us to be prepared for birth defects. My doctor scoffed at that and assured me that 97 percent of all mothers of all ages have healthy babies with no birth defects. The 3 percent of "abnormal" babies includes birthmarks, twins, and other birth defects in babies born to mothers of all ages, including the small number of Down's syndrome babies born to mothers around age 40. <br /><br />I smugly passed this information along to the naysayers, and was pleased to further prove them wrong when our baby turned out to be not only healthy but unusually pretty and smart. We now have been hearing for 13 years how handsome, talented, intelligent, and thoughtful he is. <br /><br />My doctor also noted that, while parents in their 20s have more energy, parents in their 40s have often gained more wisdom and patience to impart to their children and can spend more time with them since they are often better established in their careers and can take time off. For us, this has turned out to be true. <br /><br />People now forget our ages and are more likely to ask us why we don't have more children. We wanted more children, and my doctor supported that, but with eight years of fertility testing and treatments at ages 38-45, and seven other pregnancies that ended early, it seems our one full-term baby was a miracle. <br /><br />I think it's wonderful that some of you had babies on into your 40s! We couldn't afford adoption or more advanced fertility treatments, so we have accepted that our family is complete with one child, his busy activities, and a houseful of pets. And we have met a number of families with one late-in-life child or one second-marriage child. It's not an uncommmon thing.<br /><br />Ironically, our last two losses, the babies I carried the longest and for whom we had names and plans, were the year that five of our siblings and cousins had babies. At family gatherings, I remember the children we too might have had that year, imagining them among the five other 8-year-olds.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-91500434210393539232006-09-18T13:37:00.000+00:002006-09-18T13:37:00.000+00:00There are risks, but everything is a risk! Go for ...There are risks, but everything is a risk! Go for it. If you want another baby, have one. <br /><br />Yes, the 'nay-sayer' was being 'mean' but on the other hand, when you put your personal life out there on a blog, you know you're going to get some mean comments.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9504620.post-33919838687302332262006-09-18T13:07:00.000+00:002006-09-18T13:07:00.000+00:00"of course when you marry someone closer in age to..."of course when you marry someone closer in age to your oldest child than to yourself, of course he is expecting children." <br /><br />Oh, you're right. I am closer in age to H by 202 days. Wow. I didn't know that. <br /><br />I'm really not sure why that matters or how that's relevant here, though. In fact, I know it doesn't matter, and it sure as hell has nothing to do with this topic. <br /><br />But I guess your only point was being mean. I really don't understand that. You'll cut your life short being so negative all of the time. <br /><br />And I'm pretty sure it's a cosmic no-no be mean to a newlywed. But what do I know?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com